Posted in News by Benham Brothers | June 12th, 2017

As much as we’ve enjoyed watching the NBA Finals – and as much as we’d love to see a miracle comeback by the Cavs – the most impactful thing we’ve seen so far has been the interview with J.R. Smith before Game 3, as he discussed the premature birth of his second daughter, Dakota.

It was amazing. What impressed us most was his absolute undeniable, and often uncontrollable, love for his wife and daughter. When he said, “My wife needs me; my daughter needs me – nothing’s more important,” we were blown away. What an incredible message for millions of people watching to hear, especially before Father’s Day.

No doubt, J.R. Smith has plenty of money, tons of fame and talent coming out of his ears. But when it all came down to it, none of that mattered more than being a good husband and father – period. No amount of money in the bank, his face on a magazine or double doubles on the court sniffed the importance of him being there when his wife and daughter needed him the most.

And that’s what a real superstar looks like.

Our culture today often focuses on what’s done on the court to define a star, but what we saw in J.R. Smith was a true star for what he did off the court.

This is true for all men today. To be a good husband and father is to be a modern-day superstar. What’s done on the court, the field or the silver screen pales in comparison to being a loving father and faithful husband.

So today, men, as you fill stadiums and theaters to watch what our culture calls “superstars,” we want to encourage you that you are the real stars when you put family first, when you work that third shift to put food on the table, when you go without so your kids can have what they need, when you faithfully love your children’s mother, when you coach your kids’ teams, when you help them ride their bikes, drive their cars and graduate from school – the list goes on.

The key is to simply be there.

When men abandon the home, society begins to unravel. The following statistics reveal this gripping reality:

  • Ninety percent of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Census Bureau).
  • Eighty percent of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol. 14, Pages 403-26, 1978).
  • Sixty-three percent of youth suicides involve individuals from fatherless homes (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Census Bureau).
  • Eighty-five percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention).
  • Seventy percent of juveniles in state-operated institutions have no fathers (U.S. Department of Justice, Special Report, September 1988).
  • Eighty-five percent of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless homes (Fulton County Georgia jail populations, Texas Department of Corrections, 1992).

Our nation fractures when men aren’t there when the family needs them, which is why God is clear about the vital role of fathers in His word:

“He will restore the hearts of the fathers to their children and the hearts of the children to their fathers, so that I will not come and smite the land with a curse” (Malachi 4:6).

So this Father’s Day, it’s time for us dads to turn our hearts toward home – to be the superstars our families desperately need.

Because at the end of the day, “My wife needs me; my daughter needs me – nothing’s more important.”